Why Should We Practice The Art Of Saying No?

Why do we say ‘Yes’ when we want to say ‘No’ to things and people?

Some of us find it very difficult to say ‘No’. That’s what we call the people-pleasing syndrome. Too much of all things isn’t healthy. Too much sugar, too much salt, too much work, etc. Being TOO nice isn’t healthy.  Toxic and abusive people target the people-pleasers. When you’re a person who is always trying to make everyone happy at the expense of your own happiness, then you might be a people-pleaser.

People-pleasers believe that if they do this or that, people will like them. People-pleasers at the expense of their energy, peace of mind, and happiness, always do things that they don’t want to do. For what reason? Of course, to please the people around them. Unfortunately, in this world, we cannot please everybody. Whatever we do, whether it’s good or bad, there are always those people who will criticize us.

“You were born to be real, not perfect.”

So how do we stop being a people-pleaser? I assure you, it’s NOT that easy. But it is possible. With the right tools you’ll be able to overcome your people-pleasing habit. The first step you should take is to learn to say no. But how do we say no with confidence? Without feeling guilty? Without resentment?

This book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, from my own experience, taught me how to love myself more. The author of this book, Dr. Anne Brown, a psychotherapist for more than 30 years gives many examples of real life situations where we can apply the art of saying no.

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. “

The book is an eye-opener for everyone and I am so glad I have read it. I have learned the backbone tools everyone of us must possess in order to become a warrior. As we start learning to say no, we will feel that it’s a breath of fresh air. Learning to say yes to ourselves means learning to say no to things and people that stress us out.

“You can’t pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself first.”

Start your journey towards a successful life today!

Get Backbone Power The Science of Saying No audiobook now at an introductory rate of $4.99!! Listen to the audiobook anytime and anywhere you want whether you’re driving, before sleeping, relaxing, sitting on the beach/park, etc.

You may also get the kindle and paperback copy on Amazon.

“We owe ourselves the love that we so freely give to other people.” 


©Joan Cabras 2019. Permission needed for reproduction in any form.

3rd Annual Toys For Kids This Christmas 2018

It was December 2016, when I first launched my campaign, Toys For Kids This Christmas Gift-Giving. It was a success and it’s because of the people who have helped me make it possible. It was a very fulfilling thing to do, to be able to give joy to less fortunate kids on one of the most important days of the year, Christmas. I continued my advocacy last year 2017 too.

Since, Christmas December 2018 is fast approaching, I am planning to do it again for the third time. 🙂 I know I can’t do this alone but with your help we can make this possible again. For as low as $1, you can be able to help fund this campaign and become part of it. Just click here: Toys for Kids This Christmas 2018


“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”



Who Is A Virtual Assistant?

A virtual assistant (VA) is generally self-employed and provides professional administrative, technical, or creative (social) assistance to clients remotely from a home office.

Working as a Virtual Assistant is truly liberating. I have been a VA since 2011 and since then, I couldn’t imagine myself doing a different job. Becoming a virtual assistant (VA) has its advantages and disadvantages. For the first two years of my career as a VA, I’ve worked under a company. But after I gave birth to my second child, things have changed. I decided to work from home and I never regret my decision. One of the advantages is I got more time for my kids. The disadvantage is sometimes working from home can be a huge distraction. Life happens, and it happens a lot at home. There are many household chores like doing the laundry, getting the kids ready for school, etc. One of the most important thing is you know how to balance your time.

Another advantage is you can be your own boss BUT because you are the boss, you have full responsibility for the entire business. You have to take care of all the little details and perform the tasks you have been hired for. Sometimes, it can be a little overwhelming.

For aspiring VA’s and for those who are just starting their career as a VA, my advice is that don’t forget to do your best in every task that you do. Be pro-active, honest, reliable, and responsible. Value your client. The most important thing is to love your job.

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”


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