Book Review: Backbone Power The Science Of Saying No by Dr. Anne Brown, PhD
Why do we say ‘Yes’ when we want to say ‘No’ to things and people?
Some of us find it very difficult to say ‘No’. That’s what we call the people-pleasing syndrome. Too much of all things isn’t healthy. Too much sugar, too much salt, too much work, etc. Being TOO nice isn’t healthy. Toxic and abusive people target people-pleasers. When you’re a person who is always trying to make everyone happy at the expense of your own happiness, then you might be a people-pleaser.
You were born to be real, not perfect.
People-pleasers believe that if they do this or that, people will like them. People-pleasers at the expense of their energy, peace of mind, and happiness, always do things that they don’t want to do. For what reason? Of course, to please the people around them. Unfortunately, in this world, we cannot please everybody. Whatever we do, whether it’s good or bad, there are always those people who will criticize us.
You can’t pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself first.
So how do we stop being a people-pleaser? I assure you, it’s NOT that easy. But it is possible. With the right tools, you’ll be able to overcome your people-pleasing habit. The first step you should take is to learn to say no. But how do we say no with confidence? Without feeling guilty? Without resentment?
This book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, from my own experience, taught me how to love myself more. The author of this book, Dr. Anne Brown, a psychotherapist for more than 30 years gives many examples of real-life situations where we can apply the art of saying no.
The book is an eye-opener for everyone and I am so glad I have read it. I have learned the backbone tools every one of us must possess in order to become a warrior. As we start learning to say no, we will feel that it’s a breath of fresh air. Learning to say yes to ourselves means learning to say no to things and people that stress us out.
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.
Start your journey towards authenticity today!
We owe ourselves the love that we so freely give to other people.
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